Let's say a couple has had sex already and they are not married yet - why should that couple continue to wait until marriage? Why not just get on with it and live together since they have already crossed that line?
I assume that at least a few Christian couples are asking these sorts of questions. First, if all you are looking for is justification to continue having sex before you get married, you do not have to look here. It seems so easy, doesn't it, to justify something when we want it real bad. Sorry, my purpose here is not to give you justification, but endurance.
Steve Prefontaine would run, not to see who was fastest, but to see who had the most guts, who could punish himself in an exhausting pace, and then at the end punish himself even more. No one is going to win a 5K race with me, says Steve, after running an easy two miles. He went on, if I lose forcing the pace all the way, well, at least I can live with myself.
I think this has a lot to say to engaged couples. It is really not primarily about being a virgin on your wedding day, although that is great. It is about the endurance of the upcoming marriage. Endurance is a tone that is set up early. If a boyfriend cannot go without sex for one week, what will he do when the girlfriend is pregnant and has given birth, or when he has to go on a trip? Couples that decide, whatever the current circumstances, to stop all sexual intimacy, and wait until their wedding day, are moving a step toward endurance.
A Christian man who is married to a beautiful Christian woman will not end his sexual temptations when he gets married. That is when they go to a new level. The endurance put to waiting before the marriage will go a long way to the endurance needed during the marriage.
Waiting is something God likes us to do. We may not like it, but for some reason he does.
Maybe he wants us to grow in endurance.
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